Having a child isn’t easy, there’s a lot of crying, screaming, shreaking, wining and even their silence brings you worries. In between their terrible tantrums, you still remember why you love them, although it might not be so easy!
Perhaps one of the most asked questions by parents is why is my child acting naughty when around me?
With you being with your child for the longest part of the day, you are soon prone to their crying and tantrums. But what surprises you is when someone else takes care of them and congratulates you for having the perfect angel who does as their told. It can be their teacher, your sister, brother, grand parents or even the babysitter who tells you that your child is a star and behaves well. As you nod and smile, you worry inside you and ask yourself, is that really my child they’re talking about?
If you feel that only you experience the cheeky side of your child, then you are not alone. According to Dr Heather Wittenberg, a child psychologist “Children save their best—and worst—for us, as parents. They’re their ‘true selves’ with us. It takes energy to ‘be good’ and follow the rules—especially for young children—so when they get home, they let it all hang out. The good news is that their deepest love, affection, admiration, and goofiness are reserved for us, too.”
That’s why the reason that your child acts the way they do in front of you because they are the most comfortable. They don’t have to worry about being judged as they know they are loved even if they do misbehave which makes them feel confident!
So the next time your child throws a tantrum, it might be worth remembering that its jus their confidence in you knowing that you love them no matter what. That doesn’t mean it’s easy but at least you know!